How to Keep Commitment Phobic Men Interested ....
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Stopping the 3 Cs is the first GIANT step towards keeping a man interested. But to keep a man's attraction for months or years, a woman has to do more to add value to the relationship and grow the attraction savings account (I know, it's so hard to be a woman nowadays!) I'll share with you a 3-step system that helps grow a man's attraction.
Step 1: Give him space, space, plenty of space.
If you are concerned about keeping your man's interest, you may have noticed some indifference, impatience, or lack of interest. When a man shows his lack of interest, it's rarely just an accident. He does this to create an emotional distance from a woman because he feels crowded by her. I'm not talking about your taking all his space on his favorite, comfy bed. I'm talking about crowding a man by asking him questions about what he's thinking, how he feels about you, and where he thinks the relationship is heading.
Here's the thing: a woman's feelings towards a man grow when she's with him, but a man's feelings towards a woman grow when she's away from him. So, stop asking him questions. Stop crowding him. If he wants to tell you something, he will. Have you ever seen a guy back down from making a point about why his football team is so kicking ass? Yup. Give a guy plenty of space to get those sparks back.
Step 2: Switch your position with his position on your priority list.
Who's the person at the top of your priority list? You or him? If it's him, it's time to do a reverse. There is something not too pretty in human nature, but men tend to take women who automatically put them at the top of their priority lists for granted. He starts to feel that he deserves this, he deserves that. The more a woman tries to please him, the more he feels displeased. I'd say it's time to stop this non-sense. His VIP days are over. If he wants you to treat him well, he'd better earn it. Once a guy realizes that there are actually CONSEQUENCES for being bad, he'll change.
Step 3: Engage in something that you're passionate about.
To bring passion back to a relationship, a woman has to be a passionate person herself and do something she truly, truly loves. Ask yourself this question: If I have 10 million dollars right now, what would I do with my life? What's your dream? Is it a hobby you're dying to indulge yourself in?
Is it your passion in singing? Is it to have your own garden with your favorite roses? Is it riding a horse on a beach? Is it having your own fashion line? Whatever that dream is, it's time that you start taking small steps towards realizing it. Is it really that difficult to spend half a day each week to do the thing you truly want to do? Is it really that expensive to enroll in a class that will help you get closer to your dream? Start aligning your actions with what you truly want. I bet you anything that you'll discover this amazing energy and potential in yourself that you never knew existed!
To briefly recap the key points, we talked about the 3Cs that annoy men (convincing, complaining, and controlling your man); we also discussed the 3 steps to bring the sparks back to the relationship (give him space, put yourself first, and follow your passion); and finally, I want you to keep in mind the concept of an attraction savings account.
Always ask yourself whether you are withdrawing or growing this account.
